significance of love in modern times

yeasterday i saw the film "love aaj kal". it is a bold film in current context.comparision between we type of love and modern love. "kutch karna" means physical relationship used to be very personal and pious relationship after marriage in our time ,but now first you do that kutch and if feel like commit or may have living relationship or may be marriage.
in the film hero realised his love when heroine got married. still hero feels to marry he went and proposed and marry.heroines marriage ,seperation,long distance seperated broken relationship has no meaning. in indian culture where pati parmeshwar concept is there, karve choth ,mangal sutra ,life time commitment is there where we indian feel that if married it is THE END. we have to raise the family and fulfill our dharma but in this movie heroine casually take divorce after one year of dating,sleeping,and going through arrange marriage with full tradition and still nothing matters. WHAT IS THIS?
our indian culture traditions are breaking. we could fight muslim culture invasion and british culture invasion because of our family tradition i.e. indian marriage system. once married over. we used to hear "" beta jhis ghar tery dolly jaye usi ghar se aarthi uthe" no concept of divorce.
parents sacrificrd everything fof children. modern graduate with a job and no liablity is the outcome of parents sacrifice. arrange marriage,commitment and budgeting for children future and when future become today there slogan is " i me myself and my career". IS IT THE RIGHT ATTITUDE FOR SOCIETY?
THEY ARE NOT SURE OF THEMSELVES.
females are the backbone of indian culture and society. i am what i am, because of my mother and father. child needs both to grow. can he develop properly if he is not sure of mother/father love. may be to face three mothers and four fathers in his life time. see his loss of identity and emotional crisis.
i was thinking what is that which is beyond all this. i find it is your search of SOUL MATE.
EACH CONCIOUSNESS,SOUL,INTELLIGENCE HAS TAKEN FORM OF HUMANE BODY TO LOVE AND TO BE LOVED
your soul mate can be a female/male/animal. he may be of any caste creed ,age ,nationality
religion. your craving for love and to be loved to your soul mate is very compeeling. society law and convention will not be of any obstrucyion. it is like flooding river who destroy any obstruction. this film end ,indicates to that feeling .
in arrange marriage there is logic and practicallity. no emotions. no body asks after first meeting "do you love each other ? parents only ask 'do u like each other"
friends ,
to marry a person whom you just like and fulfill the vows of marriage may be dharam ,may be society requirement ,may be the most logical and practical thing ,may be nationalism but it is not fulfiling the craving of your innermost i.e. to love and to be loved .
now i say if you really feel that he/she is your soulmate and you want to love and to be loved unconditionally then go for it . i say it is the purpose of LIFE THE HUMAN LIFE.BEYOND THAT NOTHING MATTERS.

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A stepping stone into Fatherhood

Dear Friends ,

On 2nd February 1984 ,my wife whispered the beautiful words into my ears.. God's gift is coming to our happiness. She was excited and little worried. The God was kind enough to bless us within 3 months of our marriage. Initially the journey was not comfortable for would be papa and mummy.. Here and there small things kept on happening.. There were times when we were fearing that we might lose our gift to back to God.. Silly us after all we were new papa mummy...In fact there were no medicines available in Allopath to stop the self abortion, Thanks to our dearest friend Dr. Wakil khan, an expert in Homeopathy , we saw the face of our Baby on late night of 19th October 1984.. When ever I think about those beautiful days .. One thing which brings smiles to our faces is that in all our beautiful moments our daughter, our symbol of undying love was with us. Be it our First Anniversary celebration or the 25th. I wonder how time passes by. Today my daughter is thinking of her family... After her birth I have realized that children are the best gifts, out all materialistic pleasures. To feed my child is the most satisfying experience and the smile of my baby and her playfulness gave me new energy and I became a kid again. From my experience, I have learn that when the wife is pregnant she deserves Nutritious diet ,care, happy mental conditions. Of and on they will have different food desires, sometimes the smell of Roti will make them nauseating or they want to eat sweets late in night.. . In the end avoid medicines as much as possible. According to scriptures, we have the power to attract souls.. Thereby by chanting God's name or sholaka can wale of evils. I am of a firm believer that JANAM( Birth),MIRTYU( Death) and VIVAH (Marriage )are in hands of God. He has already decided the precise time of baby's birth, and no matter what you can’t control His mircale. Though with my little knowledge of astrology I had try to plan birth of my second child Anirudh through cesarean operation but Doctor refused to operate at the precise time and he came as per nature plan. Even some of my friends had tried to plan the time of birth of their babies but failed, labor pains started before the due date and emergency operation was performed. But I believe it is always good to learn the Law of Birth as decided by Mother Nature. The time of Fertilization will decides the Horoscope of baby and if conception happened at an auspicious time chances are there that a divine soul will enter the womb.
One of my acquaintances has also tried Chinese baby sex Calender to determine the birth of girl or a boy .. http://www.chinesegenderchart.info/pregnancy-chart-gender-selection/howitwork.html

Believes are that the planetary combination of mother and father decide the gender of baby at the time of fertilization but there are some other things to be kept in mind such as avoid sex during illness, anger, depression, dispute, fatigue etc. Only when both partners are physically and mentally strong, in best of companionship, ready for baby, in a prayerful mood, chances are that they will be blessed with healthy child. Try to avoid conception on Chandra Grahan( Lunar eclipse you can get to know from local calendar ),Surya Grahan, Amvasya and Surya in conjunction with Rahu Ketu( Consult a good astrologer to figure out the dates of this conjunction). though there are millions of combinations but above are deadliest one.At the time of marriage I was not aware of all this and even my wife did not believe in all ,sometimes I think we are responsible for physical condition of our second child. He was born with club foot and strawberry shaped big tumor .Though subsequently all ailment were cured but my son had undergone around 7 operations and long medical treatment.
Have you ever thought that everybody wants son like ABHIMANYU but nobody wants to become ARJUN ?
I say before entering into parenthood, learn as much as possible from all various sources. Consult good Doctor before pregnancy and a good astrologer when you are planning your family. Now a day’s only one or two children are there so why not we should make efforts to invite Mother Nature’s best fruits…

The Laughing Buddha Welcomes You…

 

Dear friends

It is my first post. i have created this blog to share my life experiences so that all of you can find some hints to solve your own problems. If you go through my profile you can have a image of a person who is widely read and travelled. I started my life as nobody . no money, no property, no guidance, full of family responsibility like sister marriage and brother studies etc. but I believe in myself hard work ,universal principles of success, education and luck. With a degree from IIT AND appointment letter from P&T CIVIL WING AS CLASS ONE OFFICER in 1979 my journey started. Gradually I married and blessed with two children. Now I am 52 years of age and holding post of CHIEF ENGG.CIVIL at BSNL, JAMMU. My daughter is married and settled at USA. MY SON, 21, years old is a computer science engineer and working as executive in MICROSOFT CO. OF USA.

I wrote a book for my children “how to swim effortlessly in the challenging river of lie” and published on internet. It contains principles of success as true life examples. It is a true story from rags to riches and from nobody to somebody. Since I have fulfilled all my life responsibility and feel satisfied with the progress of my son and daughter ,I have feeling to share my thoughts with all of you. I believe in “vasudhev kutamkumb”all world is my family.

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