A stepping stone into Fatherhood

Dear Friends ,

On 2nd February 1984 ,my wife whispered the beautiful words into my ears.. God's gift is coming to our happiness. She was excited and little worried. The God was kind enough to bless us within 3 months of our marriage. Initially the journey was not comfortable for would be papa and mummy.. Here and there small things kept on happening.. There were times when we were fearing that we might lose our gift to back to God.. Silly us after all we were new papa mummy...In fact there were no medicines available in Allopath to stop the self abortion, Thanks to our dearest friend Dr. Wakil khan, an expert in Homeopathy , we saw the face of our Baby on late night of 19th October 1984.. When ever I think about those beautiful days .. One thing which brings smiles to our faces is that in all our beautiful moments our daughter, our symbol of undying love was with us. Be it our First Anniversary celebration or the 25th. I wonder how time passes by. Today my daughter is thinking of her family... After her birth I have realized that children are the best gifts, out all materialistic pleasures. To feed my child is the most satisfying experience and the smile of my baby and her playfulness gave me new energy and I became a kid again. From my experience, I have learn that when the wife is pregnant she deserves Nutritious diet ,care, happy mental conditions. Of and on they will have different food desires, sometimes the smell of Roti will make them nauseating or they want to eat sweets late in night.. . In the end avoid medicines as much as possible. According to scriptures, we have the power to attract souls.. Thereby by chanting God's name or sholaka can wale of evils. I am of a firm believer that JANAM( Birth),MIRTYU( Death) and VIVAH (Marriage )are in hands of God. He has already decided the precise time of baby's birth, and no matter what you can’t control His mircale. Though with my little knowledge of astrology I had try to plan birth of my second child Anirudh through cesarean operation but Doctor refused to operate at the precise time and he came as per nature plan. Even some of my friends had tried to plan the time of birth of their babies but failed, labor pains started before the due date and emergency operation was performed. But I believe it is always good to learn the Law of Birth as decided by Mother Nature. The time of Fertilization will decides the Horoscope of baby and if conception happened at an auspicious time chances are there that a divine soul will enter the womb.
One of my acquaintances has also tried Chinese baby sex Calender to determine the birth of girl or a boy .. http://www.chinesegenderchart.info/pregnancy-chart-gender-selection/howitwork.html

Believes are that the planetary combination of mother and father decide the gender of baby at the time of fertilization but there are some other things to be kept in mind such as avoid sex during illness, anger, depression, dispute, fatigue etc. Only when both partners are physically and mentally strong, in best of companionship, ready for baby, in a prayerful mood, chances are that they will be blessed with healthy child. Try to avoid conception on Chandra Grahan( Lunar eclipse you can get to know from local calendar ),Surya Grahan, Amvasya and Surya in conjunction with Rahu Ketu( Consult a good astrologer to figure out the dates of this conjunction). though there are millions of combinations but above are deadliest one.At the time of marriage I was not aware of all this and even my wife did not believe in all ,sometimes I think we are responsible for physical condition of our second child. He was born with club foot and strawberry shaped big tumor .Though subsequently all ailment were cured but my son had undergone around 7 operations and long medical treatment.
Have you ever thought that everybody wants son like ABHIMANYU but nobody wants to become ARJUN ?
I say before entering into parenthood, learn as much as possible from all various sources. Consult good Doctor before pregnancy and a good astrologer when you are planning your family. Now a day’s only one or two children are there so why not we should make efforts to invite Mother Nature’s best fruits…